Saturday, August 31, 2013

Just another Pretty Face?

This world we live in, has billion souls, billions faces, some pretty, some plain, some big, some skinny. Everyone at least once in their life has wished to be good-looking, hey, its normal. its human nature, we always want something we never have, and if we do have it; we can't get enough of it. We want more, our desires get greedier.
Have you ever looked at a pretty girl and gone- 'Oh how I wish I was that good-looking. I would have the world begging at my knees.' Or for you boys, looked at a good looking guy and gone- 'I wish I was him. Girls would always flock around me.' We somehow have this mentality that good looking people have an easier life, things are complicated for them. Trust me, you and I can argue or debate about this all we want, but we both  know, deep inside however small; you have the feeling. Hey, I thought so too, so join the club. Albeit is there really a theory behind this statement or is this a prejudice of some people that has caught now to the world like the common cold?
Have you ever seen this stereotype? If a girl is beautiful, she isn't really considered to be clever or intelligent. Isn't this how the origin of the stereotype Blondie came from? Anyone who has a moment of foolishness, you will here the chime of this statement- "Oh, don't be such a Blondie!" Who came up with this theory that blondes' are dumb? Is there a scientific reason behind it? NO. One idiot starts the chain and the fools follow. What an absurd remark! Who has the right to decide how one's hair color depends on their intellectual level of their brain? God has given us all brains, isn't it up to us as to how we use them? It has nothing to do with this rubbish stereotypical statements.
If you're a beautiful girl, people will tell you not to worry about the future because your beauty will catch the eye of some rich idiot who will want to marry you and sorted scenes for your life. I get so frustrated when I hear such things. As it is being a woman in this diabolical Indian society is difficult, to add on this stupidity. If  a pretty girl fails in something in her life, the people around her will plant this non-sense of "She's just another pretty face with no brains. Beauty with no brains. Blonde'  Why don't people try to walk in their shoes before judging? I think the prettiest faces have gone through the worst pain. But this world doesn't understand that.It's just the way this world works. I've given up hope for this mentality to ever change.
All I can say to the girls and boys who can relate to this is that be strong. In times like these, you have no one but yourself to rely on, rekindle your self-confidence. Work harder, have faith and most importantly believe in yourself. If you don't, then who will? Make it happen, shock everyone of them. Its the best darn felling in the world, I assure you.  Make it clear to the world that you are NOT just a pretty face! You are so much MORE. 

Monday, August 19, 2013

Growing up

As a child, I used to look up to my older siblings and friends and just think 'I can't wait to grow old! Or how cool are grown ups? Not having to study, having money to eat all they want, buy the things they like!'
Can you blame me? I think every little kid wants to grow up fast, so they can make all their fantasies to come true, to not have to do homework and live without adult supervision. At least I sure did think that, and now? When I'm on the borderline of being an adult, all I wish for with all my heart, is go back to being a kid, where the hardest choice of picking the right crayon color to draw. 
I mean as kids, we aren't responsible for our actions, we don't have to really think about our future, we don't have relationship problems or strained family issues, we don't have to worry about our looks. All we do is live in that moment, be childish, happy, carefree, irresponsible. I mean as kids we think the world is a beautiful place full of rainbows and Prince Charmings' waiting to sweep us off our feet. 
It's only when you enter your teens, you are dawned upon the harsh realities of life, and it hits you like a million bricks. The worst part is- you realize that this this world we live in, is full of demons and we are in desperate shortage of hero's who may save this diabolic world. 
Nobody ever told me growing up would be so hard! Making the right choices, being responsible for your own self, knowing how to take care of yourself, planing a future which is respectful for your parents and the society, trying to make a mark in this world, studying and working your butt off and yet not receiving your goal as its a rats race to the finish line. Being a teen? That's hard too, life isn't about partying and studying. We teen are the most confusing souls to elders, they just put a tag on us as rebellious, thankless, useless, etc. But have they tried to put themselves in our place? We are expected to act as adults, but still behave as children. I mean, how does anyone expect us to do that? And the funny part is that we are trying out best to do this, so maybe next time, parents can show a little empathy for us?  Not to mention we carry the pressure of our parents expectations of us around, like a 1000 kilo bag, permanently attached on our backs, till we get a job. Not only our parents but also to prove ourselves, to have faith when all those around doubt you, when other teens around you seem like a 1893763 times smarter than you, and you feel like the most hopeless fool of the century. At times like these, growing up sucks, to believe in ourselves to have faith and rekindle our hopes to achieve our goals. It's hard, but it's a journey we all have to endure by ourselves. But with our family an friends to keep us company, growing up is a little less hard, and enjoyable. Don't you agree?  

Tuesday, August 6, 2013

Identity Crisis

As youngsters we find it really difficult to answer the question- Who are you? What kind of person do you think you are? What category do you put yourself under?
I'm 16 and am search of my true identity, please come back after 30 years and maybe I'll have an answer by then, hopefully. That's what I tell most of people the who ask me those questions. 
It's not easy. I'm been trying to find some answers of my identity and it's been 16 years worth of searching, adapting and still haven't found any answer. I mean we spend our whole left trying to be ourselves when we haven't even see ourselves with our own eyes, just our reflection. Millions of people, millions of souls, millions of hearts, millions of brains trying to find their true identity. There's bound to be confusion and mistakes which results in someone pretending to be someone their not. Now that's a scary thought. I mean YOLO. You only live once, what the point of it if you waste it by being someone you're not? Why do we live? Isn't the whole point of all this money, hard-work, love, marriage, glamour, hardships etc to make this life worth living? To leave a mark in the world before you become one with the green pastures. 
Identity. That word itself is so ambiguous. It's can take many forms, let it be a fake ID you might have for under aged  drinking or a tag you may hold for working in a company or for your job, or the two types of identity one might have- the nice guy and the bad guy. That man you see at the bus stop- might be a funny, witty and charming boss in his office but a monster at home, a abusive husband. 
So can you really identify yourself? When there are so many temptation, distractions to get you off track from your   much wanted path of right living or so it seems.
How are we as inexperienced teenagers expected to find ourselves if the society we live is like a masked ball. Where everyone hides their true vulnerable self under a false external bravado in hopes of 'fitting in'. 
Who gets to decide how another human 'fits in?' How does anyone have the right to bully, insult and bring another man down for their own ego self boost in this pretence that we live under of this masked society. 
For example- most common topic. Gays and lesbians. How does one's homosexuality even remotely related to them being good or bad? How can people discard such individuals just based on their liking for the same sex. These horrible people mask under the pretence of god and his greatness but forget that god has made us all, and god will love us irrespective of our desires and our personalities. Why should a gay person not have the right to marry the person they love? Or have the same right of marriage as a normal couple? Why should he torture his self and be unhappy for his whole life, trying to 'fit it' in this pretencions life? 
When some people actually have the courage to come out of the closet, this so called society that we live in, asks, almost orders us to abandon and disrespect such people as if they have the plague. It's the society's ways that must be frowned upon; not gays or lesbians who are stuck in their evil web of pretence that this society has made. Even the whole deal with being size zero. The whole idea seems almost too absurd to be true. Beauty doesn't have a number. Everyone is beautiful in their own way, and the insecurities we have and the scars we carry thought our lives is a result of this diabolic society that man has created. No girl is ugly, it's the society which is truly ugly. 
So finding ones' true self is a hard journey, and I wish all that my readers find what their looking for, and beware of this society. Nobody is allowed to make you feel inferior, nobody. Believe in yourself an your already halfway there. Follow your heart; always help others. I've been taught by my parents to always help people, it's the best damn feeling in the world. God compensates for your good work in some way or the other in life. So maybe try not too hard to fit in, cause everyone is born to stand out in their own unique ways. 
Identity crisis or not my friends. Be a good human being and that's all you will ever need in this life to etch your mark in this world. For a man's deed are always remembered by, even long after he is gone.